the truth

('couples' doesn't just pertain to relationships in the narrowed sense, but also includes mother & child, friend to friend, etc.)
"Couples spend years and huge amounts of energy trying to change each other, but significant disagreements are about values and different ways of seeing the world - things that don't change. Successful couples know this and therefore decide to accept each other "'warts and all'."

"Assessments we make in the blink of an eye can be as good as those we make after much deliberation."

"By the laws of probability, most decisions made under pressure should be flawed ones, yet psychologists have found that people routinely make correct judgments most of the time, even with limited information."

"When we make a split-second decision, we are really vulnerable to being guided by our stereotypes and prejudices, even ones we may not necessarily endorse or believe."

To me, this is why we feel we have to label EVERYTHING:
"We feel we need a lot of information to be confident in our judgments, but often that extra information, while giving us the illusion of certainty, makes us more prone to mistakes."

"If we become more conscious of our ingrained reactions and behavior patterns, our life can begin to be genuinely free."

"To the true believer...the perception of their own purity of intent allows them to do anything in the name of that noble intention---including take their own lives."

"If the world is black and white, then action is clear. It is only the open-minded who have to deal with surprises or contradictions."

"...'what is not' is always a more powerful motivating force than 'what is'."

"the need for belonging leads to misjudgments about other people."